It's Hard Not to Hate You

It's Hard Not to Hate You

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After being advised to reduce stress by her doctor, humorist Valerie Frankel realized the biggest source of pressure in her life was maintaining an unflappable, easy-going persona. After years of glossing over the negative, she goes on a mission of emotional honesty, vowing to let herself feel and express all the toxic emotions she'd long suppressed or denied: jealousy, rage, greed, envy, impatience, regret. Frankel reveals her personal History of Hate, from mean girls in junior high, selfish boyfriends in her twenties and old professional rivals. Hate stomps through her current life, too, with snobby neighbors, rude cell phone talkers, scary doctors and helicopter moms. Regarding her husband, she asks, "How Do I Hate You? Let Me Count the Ways." (FYI: There are three.) By the end of her authentic emotional experience, Frankel concludes that the positive thinkers have it backwards--toxic emotions are actually good for you.--From publisher description.
Publisher: New York : St. Martin's Press, 2011
Edition: 1st ed
ISBN: 9780312609788
Branch Call Number: 813.54 FRANKEL
Characteristics: 242 p. ; 22 cm


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Aug 03, 2015

Ms. Frankel's memoir was both funny (I laughed out loud a number of times: a rarity for me), and poignantly insightful. She writes with an entertaining combination of grace and funk. Her work flows gracefully from heart-touching anecdotes into funny-bone aching ( and sometimes raunchy) humor.

Her (occasionally) brutally honest writing made me think hard, laugh hard, and want to take her out to lunch and become her best friend.

Alas, that would probably be considered stalking, so I'll just have to settle for checking out the rest of her books and enjoy "meeting" her through her writing.

This book is so special that you will probably want to buy a copy to keep for yourself...which is exactly what I did!

Aug 07, 2012

At times Valerie Frankel was rather humorous. It was a cute way for her to tell her story of hating others and getting the hate out of her life.

mberk Apr 26, 2012

Not as bad as I thought it would be. Definitely some funny lines in the book. Not my "type" of reading and didn't agree with the premise of needing to "let out the hate" all the time, but found the author's journey interesting.

debwalker Oct 22, 2011

Getting real. "In a breezy 242 pages, Frankel turns The Secret on its head."


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